I am noticing the use of the word "CAN'T" a lot recently. It seems to always be in my face. I see it on Facebook, I hear people mention it in conversations, it is everywhere. And it is driving me crazy. We all can control what happens and how it happens. Therefore to say you "CAN'T" do something is simply untrue!
I usually don’t come across a more talkative person as I do when someone is telling me a story about their poor health or the bad luck they have as to why they "CAN'T" do something. Their story becomes a part of who they are and they tell it with great detail. This story forms a part of their identity. Often they are reluctant to change their “story” and give many reasons as to why it can’t change. For too many people, they convince themselves that it can’t change and so they choose to be stuck where they are and remain comfortable with that. Somehow they are waiting for an external force to create the change for them.
I know many people who always have drama around them. They create chaos and negative things always seem to happen. They fall back on excuses of all kinds. They lean on these excuses to explain the majority of the ills that befall them, often it is a real stretch to see the connection. They have trouble keeping friends and maintaining relationships and they have learned to surround themselves with people who will not call them out on their behaviour. They don’t see that it starts with them. That it starts with letting go of the excuses and taking action. Sadly most people wait and wait and decline into worse and worse shape mentally and physically. My wish this year is that somehow, these people who are fighting change tooth and nail finally see the light. That just maybe they meet someone, read something, watch something or hear something that will spark in them a willingness to finally make a change.
Remember, change ALWAYS starts with us.
It starts with each individual person making a commitment to do something a little differently or a little better than it was done the day before or to take a step that hasn’t been taken before.
If you don’t believe, borrow belief, your belief will come with time.
Commit to a 30, 60, 90 day path of change. Choose 1 thing each day that is different, challenging even scary. If you feel unable to do this on your own invite a supportive friend to join you.
Work not only on your body but also on your brain (positive thoughts)
What do you believe?
What are you putting into your brain?
Who are you surrounded by?
Are you surrounded by people who are empowering you in your negative beliefs?
Dig deep and get serious about answering the above questions!
Real change happens when we break out of our comfort zones. We all get stuck, we all have bad things happen, we all have challenges, it is how we deal with those challenges that count.
Remember, "We must become the change we want to see."
Have a Happy and Healthy Day, Cheers :)